Less is more

Less is more

Coaching question
Most people can name pretty easily what they don't want to have anymore in their lives. It's important to be aware of these elements which hinder you, make you feel uncomfortable, disturb your well-being, or lead you astray. Because only if you know exactly what it is about, you are able to change something. So here's the question for you: What would I want to have less in my life at the moment? Answering this question usually provides you with many helpful ideas how you can change your life in a positive way. Often it takes just a small reduction to already feel better. Furthermore, you can use your answers to come up with alternatives for these things you want to have less of. By doing so, you already know of…
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Get rid of frustrations

Get rid of frustrations

Self-coaching tool
Frustrations are part of our everyday life. We didn't meet a set goal, our expectations aren't met, we get angry about someone else, etc. And before we know we feel frustrated, disappointed, disheartened. These feelings can be very strong and hinder us from getting over the frustrating situation - we get stuck and can't move forward. But how to get over such strong frustrations? You can try the following exercise to get rid of your negative feelings. Take a piece of paper. Write down the negative experience or the name of the person(s) you got angry about. Put the paper in an envelope. You can even go a step further and destroy the envelope with the paper inside, e.g. by tearing it down into little pieces, by scrunching it up…
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What you need

What you need

Coaching question
With the beginning of a new year, you can hear and read everywhere about New Year's resolutions. If you have a concrete goal - ideally formulated based on the SMART rule = specific, measurable, attractive, realistic, time-related - than such a resolution is a great tool to achieve something tangible. More often, these resolutions come to nothing. You maybe begin to do more sports but somehow other things come in your way and your resolution is forgotten. I suggest you instead to focus on your needs to have a stronger motivation for follow up. So take the time and ask yourself: What do I need this year? What do I lack? What do I miss in my life? And how can I get this thing/ aspect in my life?
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Dare to feel as a unique treasure

Dare to feel as a unique treasure

Insight
It's true: you are a unique treasure. Everyone is. Several years ago, I've made myself a t-shirt saying on the front side "I am..." and on the back "...a unique treasure". When encountering someone, they were curious asking "What are you? Please turn around." I did. In most cases, the first reaction were raised eyebrows and the comment "This sounds quite arrogant." And I replied with a smile "It's a fact and you are one, too." Every human being is unique - with our exclusive genetic information, personality, talent, but also our way of perception and how we are shaped by education and experience. Of course, it might be possible to clone the genetic information but I guess our essence, the core of our self, can't be copied. And that's why…
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Latifa cards

Latifa cards

Self-coaching tool
I've already introduced the Latifa meditation and its benefits to you. And now I provide you with a set of Latifa cards you can use in various ways: Utilize the cards to support your Latifa meditation Select one card and meditate, reflect, write, draw, etc. about the chosen quality Choose one card blindly and let this quality accompany you through your day Take the card with the quality which speaks most to you and let it guide you through the next months Take the card with the quality which speaks least to you and explore how to integrate it in your life
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Say no

Say no

Coaching question
Again and again my coachees report about difficulties to say no. You've probably also came across advice about saying no. Before starting to change your behavior, I ask you to reflect a bit about the current situation. You can use the following questions to explore your feelings and beliefs behind your perceived inability to say no. In which situations it's hard for me to say no? What am I afraid of if I would say no? What do I wish for when saying yes even though I don't want to anyway?
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The gentle power of the Latifa meditation

The gentle power of the Latifa meditation

Self-coaching tool
I want to introduce you to the Latifa meditation which forms the basis of the coaching processes I provide. What is the Latifa? The Latifa is an ancient meditation practice from the Sufism. The word “latif” has different meanings – all of them have to do with being subtle. The theory of the Latifa has been firstly described by a Sufi mystic in the thirteenth century but probably it’s much older. The meditation is about seven qualities – represented by seven affirmations and seven places on the human body. It touches the core of being human, it’s about vitality and basic values such as faith, hope, and love. This might sound pretty serious and troublesome but honestly, this meditation is simple and easily accessible for everyone – even for those…
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