It's true: you are a unique treasure. Everyone is. Several years ago, I've made myself a t-shirt saying on the front side "I am..." and on the back "...a unique treasure". When encountering someone, they were curious asking "What are you? Please turn around." I did. In most cases, the first reaction were raised eyebrows and the comment "This sounds quite arrogant." And I replied with a smile "It's a fact and you are one, too." Every human being is unique - with our exclusive genetic information, personality, talent, but also our way of perception and how we are shaped by education and experience. Of course, it might be possible to clone the genetic information but I guess our essence, the core of our self, can't be copied. And that's why…
Again and again my coachees report about difficulties to say no. You've probably also came across advice about saying no. Before starting to change your behavior, I ask you to reflect a bit about the current situation. You can use the following questions to explore your feelings and beliefs behind your perceived inability to say no. In which situations it's hard for me to say no? What am I afraid of if I would say no? What do I wish for when saying yes even though I don't want to anyway?
I would like to continue with last week’s topic around loyalties, dependencies and taking care for own needs. The new question helps you to find what you don’t allow yourself due to strong loyalties to others: What would I do differently, if I could never disappoint someone by my action or inaction? What is your answer to this question? Please share your views and insights in the comments.
As human beings we are part of a community. We live and work together with others. Many of us prefer a harmonious coaction and therefore try to identify and fulfill the expectations and needs of others. If you orientate your actions too strongly towards others, you risk to disregard your own needs. It might be interesting to ask yourself: Are the wishes and needs of others more important than my own ones? What is your answer to this question? Please share your views and insights in the comments.
Everyone is good at something. In my opinion, everyone is unique and has therefore also unique talents and strengths. But often we don’t value where we are good at. That’s too normal for us, nothing special. And so it happens that we not even appreciated the compliments we get from others. Probably it would be interesting to explore the difference of how others perceive your strengths and how you want to be perceived. So ask yourself: What would be the nicest compliment someone could give me? And what could I do to get this compliment in the near future? What are your answers to these questions? Please share your views and insights in the comments.