Make your choice

Make your choice

Self-coaching tools
Our world is full of options and we are asked to make choices. There are the big choices regarding the direction of our life, and lots of small choices in our every day life - coffee or tea, going to the movies or reading a book, etc. And sometimes, there are these moments where your head is empty, lacking any impulse about what to do next. Today's set of cards offers you nine activities to choose from in these moments - available in English, German, and Dutch. Use the cards to get inspiration and support for making your choice!
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Be mindful

Be mindful

Self-coaching tools
Mindfulness is a strong tool to stay aware and be conscious about how you really feel and what you really need. Being mindful allows you to notice inner processes and signals. To help you to increase and maintain your mindfulness, I have prepared some helpful mini-exercises written on small cards. Download the file (available in English, German, Dutch), cut out the cards and use them in your daily life to practice your mindfulness. Be mindful!
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Stick to it

Stick to it

Self-coaching tools
Do you know this: You have an idea, you have planned everything. You are enthusiastic and full of energy. You set the first steps and... you stop, you procrastinate, you doubt, you criticize yourself, you look away... To help you in such situations to stick to your intention and to continue to realize it, I have collected some helpful measures written on little cards. Download the file (available in English, German, Dutch), cut out the cards and use them in the above mentioned situations where the flow has stopped and you need an impulse to continue. Stick to it!
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Get advice from your future self

Get advice from your future self

Self-coaching tools
Sometimes, you need someone to talk to - a kind of a mature, experienced or even wise person - and there is no one available, not now or not the person you are looking for. Why not get in contact with your future self? Your future self is probably just the person who knows you best and who really understands your request and the questions related to it. Communicating with your future self provides you with a resource always available to you without any further requirements. I've recorded an instruction which guides you through the process of finding and communicating with your future self. The exercise takes approximately 15 minutes. Get pen and paper to make notes directly after the exercise. Find a comfortable spot to sit and ensure that you will be…
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How resilient are you?

How resilient are you?

Self-assessment
Each of us have experienced crises in life – the small ones, when the housework outgrows you or the favorite cup is dropped, and the big ones, if your relationship hangs in the balance or job loss is imminent. And each of us deals differently with these crises. Some come pretty quickly over it, others nibble longer on it, and still others remain trapped in a state of shock. What helps us to overcome crises, is described by the concept of resilience. It is about adaptability and resistance – ultimately a kind of inner strength that helps us to cope with crises. This is also the topic of the March edition of the bird’s post, and the two following editions will look in more detail on the seven protective factors…
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Use your resources

Use your resources

Coaching questions
It happens that we find ourselves in a difficult situation – without someone we could talk to, exchange views and ideas, develop solutions and weigh their consequences. We are left on our own. But we are not helpless but only need to make use of the resources lying in ourselves. So try to work with the following questions to find a way out of the situation: If a good friend were in my situation, what would I advise her/him to do now? If I could talk to my best friend, what would she/he advise me to do? If I could ask a wise person, what would she/he advise me to do? If there were a young child of 8-10 years, what would she/he advise me to do? What are your…
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Break free

Break free

Coaching questions
I would like to continue with last week’s topic around loyalties, dependencies and taking care for own needs. The new question helps you to find what you don’t allow yourself due to strong loyalties to others: What would I do differently, if I could never disappoint someone by my action or inaction? What is your answer to this question? Please share your views and insights in the comments.
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Reflect and learn

Reflect and learn

Coaching questions
I cannot enough emphasize the importance of reflecting and learning from experience. Therefore I recommend to spend some minutes every evening to reflect the day and to draw essential insights. Try these questions for your reflection: What can I learn from what happened to me today? From the positive but also from the annoying or even painful experiences? Can I draw any important insights which will help me to cope in a different day with similar situations in the future? So what have you learnt today?
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Differently than expected

Differently than expected

Coaching questions
If we look back on certain incidents our evaluation can change because we can see it in a different light. That helps to discover important moments in our life. I invite to look back and ask yourself: Is there something that was really bad for me which has later proved to be a stroke of luck What is your answer to this question? Please share your views and insights in the comments.
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Forgive yourself

Forgive yourself

Coaching questions
Sometimes we hinder ourselves to go forward by clinging to certain incident where we made mistakes. We are still angry about ourselves and brood about how such things could happen to us. In order to let go, I invite you to ask yourself: What would be different in my life, if I would forgive the things that I couldn’t yet forgive me? What is your answer to this question? Please share your views and insights in the comments.
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