Most people can name pretty easily what they don't want to have anymore in their lives. It's important to be aware of these elements which hinder you, make you feel uncomfortable, disturb your well-being, or lead you astray. Because only if you know exactly what it is about, you are able to change something. So here's the question for you: What would I want to have less in my life at the moment? Answering this question usually provides you with many helpful ideas how you can change your life in a positive way. Often it takes just a small reduction to already feel better. Furthermore, you can use your answers to come up with alternatives for these things you want to have less of. By doing so, you already know of…
With the beginning of a new year, you can hear and read everywhere about New Year's resolutions. If you have a concrete goal - ideally formulated based on the SMART rule = specific, measurable, attractive, realistic, time-related - than such a resolution is a great tool to achieve something tangible. More often, these resolutions come to nothing. You maybe begin to do more sports but somehow other things come in your way and your resolution is forgotten. I suggest you instead to focus on your needs to have a stronger motivation for follow up. So take the time and ask yourself: What do I need this year? What do I lack? What do I miss in my life? And how can I get this thing/ aspect in my life?
Again and again my coachees report about difficulties to say no. You've probably also came across advice about saying no. Before starting to change your behavior, I ask you to reflect a bit about the current situation. You can use the following questions to explore your feelings and beliefs behind your perceived inability to say no. In which situations it's hard for me to say no? What am I afraid of if I would say no? What do I wish for when saying yes even though I don't want to anyway?
Don't you wish you were more satisfied and happier - in general, regarding a certain situation, regarding a certain relationship? What would be if you could make yourself happier? I invite you to ask yourself: What would have to change so that I would feel more satisfied and happier? Can I realize this change or is it out of my hands? And if I can change it: What would I have to invest to do so, and would I be willing to make this investment?
We all know other people who live a great life, have everything someone could wish for, and seem to be happy and content. At least from an outside perspective... It might be interesting to realize what the things are you're longing for and to step in this other person's shoes to find out if really everything is perfect for them. Is that really what you want? So ask yourself now: Whom I envy her or his life and why? Which worries, problems and fears this person might have? And would I irrevocably trade my life for this person's one?
I am sure there are things in your life you really want to do but ... Yep, at the same time many "buts" pop up in your thoughts. Potential buts and scaring buts. One common but is the fear to fail - to start realizing your dream and to experience that it doesn't work plus all the related feelings of disappointment, pain, shame, ... Nevertheless, I encourage you to dare to ask the following question and see what happens: What would I do today, if I could not fail? Let's start today!
Even if we really want to change something a lot of "ifs" and "buts" are standing in our way to get into action. We are waiting for something to happen or for someone to act. We postpone our action and have many good reasons for this. And sometimes, we are just scared about the change and its unforeseeable consequences, about becoming visible with our action, about the potential reactions of the people in our environment. As a help to overcome these fears, try this question: What I would do differently, if I had unlimited courage?
Weekends are an important part of the week insofar as they are usually dedicated to spending time with family, friends, and hobbies, sleeping out and doing other things to relax and regenerate. Because its Friday it's a good opportunity to think about the following questions: What will make my weekend perfect? What do I need this weekend to relax, regenerate, enjoy life? What can I do myself to contribute to this? Please share your views and insights in the comments.
It happens that we find ourselves in a difficult situation – without someone we could talk to, exchange views and ideas, develop solutions and weigh their consequences. We are left on our own. But we are not helpless but only need to make use of the resources lying in ourselves. So try to work with the following questions to find a way out of the situation: If a good friend were in my situation, what would I advise her/him to do now? If I could talk to my best friend, what would she/he advise me to do? If I could ask a wise person, what would she/he advise me to do? If there were a young child of 8-10 years, what would she/he advise me to do? What are your…
I would like to continue with last week’s topic around loyalties, dependencies and taking care for own needs. The new question helps you to find what you don’t allow yourself due to strong loyalties to others: What would I do differently, if I could never disappoint someone by my action or inaction? What is your answer to this question? Please share your views and insights in the comments.