Less is more

Less is more

Coaching question
Less is more Most people can name pretty easily what they don't want to have anymore in their lives. It's important to be aware of these elements which hinder you, make you feel uncomfortable, disturb your well-being, or lead you astray. Because only if you know exactly what it is about, you are able to change something.   So here's the question for you: What would I want to have less in my life at the moment?   Answering this question usually provides you with many helpful ideas how you can change your life in a positive way. Often it takes just a small reduction to already feel better. Furthermore, you can use your answers to come up with alternatives for these things you want to have less of. By doing…
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What you need

What you need

Coaching question
With the beginning of a new year, you can hear and read everywhere about New Year's resolutions. If you have a concrete goal - ideally formulated based on the SMART rule = specific, measurable, attractive, realistic, time-related - than such a resolution is a great tool to achieve something tangible. More often, these resolutions come to nothing. You maybe begin to do more sports but somehow other things come in your way and your resolution is forgotten. I suggest you instead to focus on your needs to have a stronger motivation for follow up. So take the time and ask yourself: What do I need this year? What do I lack? What do I miss in my life? And how can I get this thing/ aspect in my life?
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Recognize your “I-moments”

Recognize your “I-moments”

Self-assessment
How much are you already by yourself? How is that for you? To which extend do you feel to be quite by yourself?   Try to estimate your current status on the following scale. 1 stands for "I'm probably still at square 1." And 10 means "I have arrived by myself and live my life the way that suits me best." Congratulations, if you have arrived already on the right side of the scale. I suspect, most of you rather made their cross in the left half. Not for nothing is the search for oneself, one's own way, the core theme of many coaching processes. I have a simple tip how you can get a little further on your way to yourself. To find out how it feels to be…
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Is that really what you want?

Is that really what you want?

Coaching question
            We all know other people who live a great life, have everything someone could wish for, and seem to be happy and content. At least from an outside perspective... It might be interesting to realize what the things are you're longing for and to step in this other person's shoes to find out if really everything is perfect for them. Is that really what you want? So ask yourself now: Whom I envy her or his life and why? Which worries, problems and fears this person might have? And would I irrevocably trade my life for this person's one?
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Get advice from your future self

Get advice from your future self

Self-coaching tool
            Sometimes, you need someone to talk to - a kind of a mature, experienced or even wise person - and there is no one available, not now or not the person you are looking for. Why not get in contact with your future self? Your future self is probably just the person who knows you best and who really understands your request and the questions related to it. Communicating with your future self provides you with a resource always available to you without any further requirements. I've recorded an instruction which guides you through the process of finding and communicating with your future self. The exercise takes approximately 15 minutes. Get pen and paper to make notes directly after the exercise. Find a comfortable spot to sit…
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How to learn something valuable for yourself

How to learn something valuable for yourself

Self-coaching tool
[vc_row][vc_column][vc_single_image image="1607" img_size="full"][vc_column_text]We all know things and we don’t know things. To learn and to deepen your knowledge about the world and yourself is therefore an essential element of life. Often, we set ourselves certain objectives, we have good intentions and plans to improve. What I want you to focus on are the real issues, the true questions, when you really want to know, to recognize, to experience something valuable for yourself. Use questions to investigate and learn – in this case I want you to work with a personal learning question. Read more how to do so. Step 1: Identify your personal learning question A learning question is about subject of which you feel deep inside that it is now the sufficient point in time to learn more about…
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Use your resources

Use your resources

Coaching question
It happens that we find ourselves in a difficult situation – without someone we could talk to, exchange views and ideas, develop solutions and weigh their consequences. We are left on our own. But we are not helpless but only need to make use of the resources lying in ourselves. So try to work with the following questions to find a way out of the situation: If a good friend were in my situation, what would I advise her/him to do now? If I could talk to my best friend, what would she/he advise me to do? If I could ask a wise person, what would she/he advise me to do? If there were a young child of 8-10 years, what would she/he advise me to do? What are your…
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Break free

Break free

Coaching question
I would like to continue with last week’s topic around loyalties, dependencies and taking care for own needs. The new question helps you to find what you don’t allow yourself due to strong loyalties to others: What would I do differently, if I could never disappoint someone by my action or inaction? What is your answer to this question? Please share your views and insights in the comments.
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Forgive yourself

Forgive yourself

Coaching question
[vc_row][vc_column][vc_single_image image="1513" img_size="full"][vc_column_text]Sometimes we hinder ourselves to go forward by clinging to certain incident where we made mistakes. We are still angry about ourselves and brood about how such things could happen to us. In order to let go, I invite you to ask yourself:[/vc_column_text][vc_message message_box_color="peacoc" icon_fontawesome="fa fa-quote-left"]What would be different in my life, if I would forgive the things that I couldn’t yet forgive me?[/vc_message][vc_column_text]What is your answer to this question? Please share your views and insights in the comments.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row]
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Being okay

Coaching question
[vc_row][vc_column][vc_single_image image="1522" img_size="full"][vc_column_text]Quite often we tend to struggle with how we are. We compare ourselves to others and always find little things where we could do better and are not good enough. That way we keep ourselves busy to look at our faults and to feel unsatisfied with ourselves. But hey, nobody is perfect! So please try the little experiment and ask yourself:[/vc_column_text][vc_message message_box_color="peacoc" icon_fontawesome="fa fa-quote-left"]If you were 100% convinced that you are okay, right and proper, as you are at the moment. How would that feel?[/vc_message][vc_column_text]What is your answer to this question? Please share your views and insights in the comments.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row]
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