Get rid of frustrations

Get rid of frustrations

Self-coaching tool
Frustrations are part of our everyday life. We didn't meet a set goal, our expectations aren't met, we get angry about someone else, etc. And before we know we feel frustrated, disappointed, disheartened. These feelings can be very strong and hinder us from getting over the frustrating situation - we get stuck and can't move forward. But how to get over such strong frustrations? You can try the following exercise to get rid of your negative feelings. Take a piece of paper. Write down the negative experience or the name of the person(s) you got angry about. Put the paper in an envelope. You can even go a step further and destroy the envelope with the paper inside, e.g. by tearing it down into little pieces, by scrunching it up…
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Say no

Say no

Coaching question
Again and again my coachees report about difficulties to say no. You've probably also came across advice about saying no. Before starting to change your behavior, I ask you to reflect a bit about the current situation. You can use the following questions to explore your feelings and beliefs behind your perceived inability to say no. In which situations it's hard for me to say no? What am I afraid of if I would say no? What do I wish for when saying yes even though I don't want to anyway?
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Make your choice

Make your choice

Self-coaching tool
Our world is full of options and we are asked to make choices. There are the big choices regarding the direction of our life, and lots of small choices in our every day life - coffee or tea, going to the movies or reading a book, etc. And sometimes, there are these moments where your head is empty, lacking any impulse about what to do next. Today's set of cards offers you nine activities to choose from in these moments - available in English, German, and Dutch. Use the cards to get inspiration and support for making your choice!
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Start today

Start today

Coaching question
            I am sure there are things in your life you really want to do but ... Yep, at the same time many "buts" pop up in your thoughts. Potential buts and scaring buts. One common but is the fear to fail - to start realizing your dream and to experience that it doesn't work plus all the related feelings of disappointment, pain, shame, ... Nevertheless, I encourage you to dare to ask the following question and see what happens: What would I do today, if I could not fail? Let's start today!
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Take courage

Take courage

Coaching question
Even if we really want to change something a lot of "ifs" and "buts" are standing in our way to get into action. We are waiting for something to happen or for someone to act. We postpone our action and have many good reasons for this. And sometimes, we are just scared about the change and its unforeseeable consequences, about becoming visible with our action, about the potential reactions of the people in our environment. As a help to overcome these fears, try this question: What I would do differently, if I had unlimited courage?
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How resilient are you?

How resilient are you?

Self-assessment
[vc_row][vc_column][vc_single_image image="1576" img_size="full"][vc_column_text]Each of us have experienced crises in life – the small ones, when the housework outgrows you or the favorite cup is dropped, and the big ones, if your relationship hangs in the balance or job loss is imminent. And each of us deals differently with these crises. Some come pretty quickly over it, others nibble longer on it, and still others remain trapped in a state of shock. What helps us to overcome crises, is described by the concept of resilience. It is about adaptability and resistance – ultimately a kind of inner strength that helps us to cope with crises. This is also the topic of the March edition of the bird’s post, and the two following editions will look in more detail on the seven…
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Use your resources

Use your resources

Coaching question
It happens that we find ourselves in a difficult situation – without someone we could talk to, exchange views and ideas, develop solutions and weigh their consequences. We are left on our own. But we are not helpless but only need to make use of the resources lying in ourselves. So try to work with the following questions to find a way out of the situation: If a good friend were in my situation, what would I advise her/him to do now? If I could talk to my best friend, what would she/he advise me to do? If I could ask a wise person, what would she/he advise me to do? If there were a young child of 8-10 years, what would she/he advise me to do? What are your…
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